Wednesday, 12 November 2014

HOW TO OVERCOME STRESS AND ANXIETY IN DAILY LIFE


How to Save Yourself from the Perils of Stress and Anxiety
Kerala school children, parents, and adults from all walks of life suffer from stress. They may not know it, but the effects of stress are affecting the quality of their lives.
In fact, there is no specific reason for stress. Sometimes, seeing a bad sight or hearing a bad news is enough to cause stress and to create bad mood.

The major reasons of stress among Kerala population include:
 > Changing family, social and economic conditions
 > Daily commute to school and work
 > Long distance travel for employment and studies
 > Stressful professions like software engineering, sales jobs, etc
 > Lessons that are too tough for students
 > Unreasonable expectations of parents and others
 > Spending too little time with family, relatives and friends
 > Not being able to mingle with friendly people
 > Unavailability of family and peer support when needed the most
 > Virtual world of friends and relationships in social media like Facebook
 > Too much dependance on internet, video games, etc for stress relief

Excessive alcohol consumption, tobacco use, and substance abuse are other reasons of increased stress. People think they are relaxing, but in reality they are only compounding to the problem.

Does Anything Apply to You Or People You Know?
If you go through the list, you can find more than one point applies to you
and/or people you know.
In the past, Kerala families were much larger than they are today. Everyone in the family could find support from another member in the family – whatever the
situation is.
Today, the families are much smaller than ever. The kids go to school with very heavy school bags, study a lot of text books, and are left alone at home most of the time. These kids are not able to express their feelings as often as they'd like –
simply because there isn't anybody around.
At school, they have to meet deadlines of project works, class tests and exams. Same is the case of adults who have to travel long distances to work, have to earn enough for the family, and are under the constant scrutiny of bosses.
Traveling in Kerala roads alone is a major reason for stress. There are traffic blocks everywhere. If you reach your workplace one hour late because of traffic, that
is enough stress already.
To top it all, technological advances also put major pressure into our lives. For example, internet is available in mobile phones everyone carries around. While this is a good thing, it creates problems too. When you access social networks like Facebook all the time from your mobile phone, you are effectively shutting the real world from you.

Excess stress can lead to health problems like:
  •  High blood pressure
  •  Heart disease
  •  Eating problems and obesity
  •  Indigestion
  •  Diabetes
  •  Asthma
  •  Headache / migraine
  •  Depression
Needless to say, they are all serious problems in themselves. While there are other medical reasons for those conditions, avoiding stress will reduce the risks. You feel a lot better when you apply stress management techniques to keep your mind
relaxed.

Top Ten Tips to Manage Stress
1.     Instant mood booster: Stand up to an upright posture, keep your chin up and take a deep breath. You will feel better in 5 seconds or less.
1.     Keep a positive outlook.
2.     Identify the sources of stress – Commute? Work? Peer pressure? Take action where you can.
3.     Eat lot of fruits, vegetables, wholegrain items, and protein-rich food. Avoid excess intake of sugar and high calorie snacks.
4.     Exercise daily – this is a major mood booster.
5.     Get enough sleep – schedule at least six hours of sleep between 9 pm and 5 am.
6.     Apply time management techniques. Schedule specific hours for specific tasks and you will achieve a lot more.
7.     Avoid procrastination.
8.     Spend time with family, friends and relatives (with your mobile phones switched off).
9.      Listen to soothing music.

If you use at least 5 of the tips listed above, you will feel a lot better and your
life will be a lot more rewarding.
Sometimes stress can get out of hands and you will need professional help. In such times, feel free to talk to a counselor. This way, you can easily sort the real sources of stress. You will also get an actionable plan. Put that plan to your life and
your life will be a lot easier and stress-free. 



Wednesday, 23 October 2013

Mental Health Problems - Growing in Kerala

Newspaper, media, and reports are filled with the growing number of mental health related problems in Kerala. These reports are disturbing for people like us who take one-on-one counselling sessions. From the many sessions I hold in Trivandrum, I feel that most of these problems could be resolved with family support.

Many factors contribute to the extreme shoot-up of mental health related cases in Kerala. One of the reason can be attributed to the nuclear family system and the decline of extended family support. While there are other causes, it's important for individuals to maintain a health life composition.

Here're are few reasons that trigger stress in life and how it affects individuals.

  • Family break up
  • Death of someone very closer
  • Family history (genes)
  • Bad relationships with friends or peers
  • Learning problems.
  • Mental strain
  • Sexual abuse
  • Neglect from the family
  • Physical injuries and dependence of others
  • Missing of any family members
  • Separation  and divorce.
  • Violence.
  • Unemployment and financial stress
  • Homelessness 

Sunday, 26 August 2012

Psychological Problems of Adolesent Children in Kerala

Unlike in the past, today's adolescent girls in Kerala go through various levels of stress. It could be internal (family) or from outsides sources. The adolescent stage is a very precarious phase of life when child goes through various physical and metal transformation. It's a time when parental support and guidance is required.

There's also a rise in delinquent behavior among adolescent girls in Kerala. In one survey it was reported that lack of parental guidance, involvement, attachment or lack of intimacy is resulting in abnormal among adolescent girls.

Adolescent girls are more prone to stress due to these elements
  • Worries about schoolwork and study
  • Difficulty in studies
  • Bringing up in an unhappy family
  • Sexual or verbal abuse
  • Relationships problems with peers
  • Weight related issues
  • Looks and peer pressure
  • Over exposure to T.V and Internet
  • Parent - Adolescent Relationship
Role of family in building better relationship with adolescent kids
  1. As a parent you can approach kids as a friend. Adopt a peaceful and a calm approach in understanding their problems. 
  2. Don't jump into conclusions or accuse them. Instead show concern, support and most importantly be a good listener
  3. Avoid constant supervision of their life - Be it their dressing, about friends or behaviors. In short stop being helicopter mom's 
  4. Take clues from their words and try to understand the meaning in their words. Don't always take things lightly. Maybe, they are facing problems at school or have some stress from outside which they are not ready to share. If you suspect some problem, you can seek the support of good counsellors.
  5. Never, never quarrel in front of your children. It can lead to stress and depression 

Saturday, 7 July 2012

5 ways to Recognize Stress in Child

Is your child showing excess anger without any reason?
Does your child exhibit irregular mood swings?
Do you notice in the eating habits of your child?

School children are likely to display stress differently from adults. Very often we mistake kids’ stress as  physical symptoms such as frequent bouts of fever, or headache, stomachache, and even nausea.  Each child has a unique way of showing stress to the outside world.

As a parent you should be deligent to pick the signals or note the behavioral changes of your child. Knowing early, helps you to take corrective action without it agravates into a bigger problem.  For instance if your hyperactive child suddenly becomes moody then it’s your turn to take note of such changes and find the reason for such changes. 

You can help your kids reduce stress by following these 4 stress management techniques:
  • Eat Healthy foods: Avoid junk food or high calorie drinks
  • Regular Exercise: Physical activities like sports, games is a stress killer
  • Give discipline: Don't overdo it. But, do corrective action at the right time
  • Be a good listener These days kids expect parents to listen, and be a friend. You can be one.
For more details of child counselling in Trivandrum or if you want one-on-one consultation, then feel free to contact me at # 91 471 9387613503 or sandhyarani.sanil@gmail.com for appointments

Thank you.

Sandhya

Saturday, 5 May 2012

About Child Counselling



I take care of child counselling in Trivandrum. I have experience in caring and giving support to the childrens coming with different problems. It's a confidential relationship between counsellor and the client.

I take individual counselling, family counselling, parent counselling etc.

You can contact me at 91 471 9387613503 or sandhyarani.sanil@gmail.com for appointments.